My working life
Well this wk’s blog is all about how I manage my ‘working’ life and the balance of running a family home and running my own business. Both are just as busy as the other maybe the family home more so because I am constantly picking up odd socks off the floor between my partner my baby boy and a chocolate Labrador who LOVES to eat smelly boy socks they keep me busy. ( we Also have 2 cats and 3 chickens ) 🤦🏻♀️
Before I had the baby I used to work 6 days a wk with out even thinking about having a day off , I worked right up to having the baby I think I had about 7 days off before he arrived as he was early, but weddings used to BREAK my body when I was pregnant I didn’t realise how much energy i used to stand there and intensely focus on making a bridal party perfect. I used to go home with sciatica and was unable to walk that day. Anyway fast forward 1 year and I am back to business but now i choice to not work 6 days a wk as I want to be there for my baby and watch him grow but since becoming a mother I now want my business to thrive so I can enjoy a good balanced life with my baby and be a successful working mum even though all mums are successful working mums in there own right!!!!! I have always had a great work ethic and even more so now. my time is precious and so is yours but the most important thing we can give are selfs is time , time to enjoy life as well as work play, learn & love. I love my work so to me it’s not work , some nights I am coming back from working in Manchester on a shoot for a clothing brand and then I will put the baby to bed as I am still breastfeeding then either one of us will cook tea but I prefer to do it as I Keep the kitchen tidy as I cook , and then I will go on my computer and catch up with my bridal business either replying to brides / prepping my blog or working on some social media content. Before you know it it’s time for that ritual skin care routine and I like to read or meditate before I sleep to wind down and detach from this technical world we live in. I tend to work in Manchester a few times a wk, I will also do wedding trials in the wk or wk end and then most Saturdays I will do a wedding. I would say I now work 3 1/2 - 4 days a wk which I am finding it’s great as I still love to be busy with my business and I also get time with my family. We get to go swimming , play dates and just enjoy life together.
Another change I am making is to offer a base close to me for my wedding trials because I found my self driving A lot and I have been freelance for over 10 years so A base to just express my talent will be a pleasure. I will still happily drive to brides for a trial but I will also offer my location (still trying to find the right space ) I know the universe will deliver at the right time 😊 I believe in all that magic 😉
How to balance business and baby ??? me and my partner are both self employed so we can take control of are working days and wks , Phoenix goes to nursery twice a wk and his dad stays at home on a Monday and he doesn’t work wk ends which benefit in my favour. It’s a good 50/50 balance on both behalf’s - trying to keep the business going day 2 day and also look after a toddler can be a challenge as all are work is done via that device we call a mobile telephone. Not missing calls , checking your emails , keeping on top of social media can take a lot of focus and I don’t want my baby to see me on the phone all the time so when he has his big 2 hour sleep in the afternoon I tend to catch up on all my admin as well as stick a broom up my bum and clean the kitchen floor. 😜
Since having the baby I am a bit obsessed with cleaning , or maybe I am just growing up and realise it’s essential to keep on top of a busy house hold , I could always get a cleaner but doesn’t everyone clean up for the cleaner to arrive 🤷🏻♀️
I love to cook fresh so I am always batch cooking for the baby so I have meals in the freezer for him which can make life easy for my self. I don’t really get time for the gym any more as I kinda feel guilty leaving the baby (unless it’s at night after he’s gone down ) which is insane but that’s just how I feel about it, maybe it’s because I am still breast feeding??? so Instead I either take the baby swimming or we go on a family walk ( do I need to explain that the dog is a family member?? Surly not ? )
Ruby the chocolate lab was my first baby and she is such a softy. she does get kinda jealous that my attention is on the baby but she shows it in a way of ‘ love me !!! Hug me !!! ‘ and not towards the baby , they are slowly becoming best of pals I think the food drop Phoenix delivers has helps enormously, the other day Phoenix went into Ruby’s bowl when she was eating and she didn’t do anything she just let him take her food which is amazing in my eyes , she must of thought ‘ well you share your food with me it’s only fair to return the favour’ I could go on all day about my dog and baby so maybe I shall leave that for another blog.
As I finish this blog I am baby free and work free which doesn’t ever happen but I am having to leave the baby with his dad and go visit my friend alone as he hasn’t been well so I thought it was best for him to stay at home while I go to the big smoke for the wk end , it was a hard decision as I wanted him with me (selfish reasons )and I am going to have a pump attached to my boobs the whole time but sometimes you just got to be strong and now I can have some me time with my best friend and her baby. I guess it will recharge me!!!
Thanks for reading and if you know of any brides to be who fancy reading what I have to say or you don’t even have to be a ‘bride to be’ , just a human will do, then send them my way.
Love Rebecca 💋
My most loved beauty products & my resent skin care regime ❤️
Years ago I suffered with acne so I’ve had my fair share of skin focus, how ever I treated the acne with roactine but then realised that my contraception ( copper coil ) was not agreeing with my skin and that was to blaime so I took that out and my skin cleared up so I stopped the medication. Being in the beauty industry I’ve always been focused on skin so here are some of my old favs and current favs, i hope you enjoy reading and i hope i have inspired you and your skin to shine.
As much as I love make up and applying it I would rather walk round with clean hydrated skin so I guess skin care is my make up. I think we all enjoy washing the day away and popping on some cucumber slices with are feet up !!! Ha ha o I can only dream running around after a toddler and the daily run of a family home and running my own business is hectic and none stop and those cucumber slices are properly more likely to end up dunked in hummus and in my sons tummy or smuggled to the dog by my son, my eyes can wave good bye to those cucumber slices.
One of my secret weapons has to be a sudocreme face mask I do this about once a wk it seems to clear up any imperfections I have. I am using just enough so it soaks Into my skin, kind of like a leave on mask, I am not walking round the house like a big white moon face, I just want to put it on and forget about it. The zinc oxide works wonders for repairing the skin so next time your changing your babies bum treat your face to a luxurious spa like face mask 😉
Next up has to be caster oil if you want to grow those brows before your big day it is totally possible, rub on some organic caster oil every night before bed you can also rub it into your lashes and around your eyes. Caster oil helps stimulate the hair growth and it even helps your eyes to de puff in the morning. Repubzal i hear you say…
The cleaner I am using right now is from Aesop this is my first experience with this brand and I am loving it. I am a sucker for skin care marketing and those brown medical like bottles just do it for me. I am using the cleaning non foaming gel ‘fabulous facial cleanser’ it’s calming ingredients are not going to stripe my natural oils. It’s good for all skin types. I like to wash my face with a Muslim cloth I feel I get it the cleanest that way , They say to wash your face twice just like your hair one pre clean and then a re clean.
After I’ve washed I then use the pixie glow tonic to soften any dead skin cells and keep my skin smooth and fresh , I’ve mentioned this product before in a Instagram post its a great product in my kit and in my bathroom. i would defiantly recommend this to all brides to be wanting to get there skin surface smooth.
i am at the very end of my new fav night oil its got a wonderful name ‘luna’ by sunday riley its a deep blue indigo colour so be sure to rub it in properly as we don’t want a blue face. its lasted me a couple of months which isn’t that good as its not the cheapest (£45 for 15mls) i defiantly saw a difference once i started to use this oil , my skin looked fresh and had a youthful glow about it. its rich with retinol which is the bees knees for anti ageing don’t ya know. i will be investing into more of the sunday riley products for sure.
my last favourite for now is the nuxe lip balm, being a make up artist and having to look after models and brides for the last 10 years it brings me great pleasure in suppling the BEST lip balm to all those lips that cross my path. i think i have found it. its award winning ingredients leave your lips hydrated and supple for hours and i mean hours , its not a one hit wonder baby trust me i am a make up artist.
links to all my favs are below
thank you for taking the time to read my blog , until next time
‘ You may kiss the bride ‘ 💋It can only be Tom ford in my eyes ,this is for your splurging princess who doesn’t care because it’s her day , the luxury that will pass your partners lips can only be a winner in my make up eyes.
Lipstick is one of the main top up products you will need for your wedding day , so which lipstick is the chosen one , it’s a big decision we have all stood at a lipstick stand and tried on about a million and we still can’t see any difference. The more we try the more we wipe which brings more blood to the surface of the lip which doesn’t help when trying to pick that perfect colour. So let me help you and point you in the direction of what I recommend to my brides.
I will give you a varied price range to meet all budgets.
The colours I would advice is open kimono , Spanish pink or sable smoke
They also do a new duo set which includes a lip liner and lipstick which may be worth the money these are also £40
I think the colour ‘public display’ is perfect
If your a red lip kinda lady then it has to be scarlet leather in a satin matte texture.
Splash out it’s your wedding day or get someone to splash out for you.
- Next up is one that could become your stable favourite year round , pop it on your birthday list and kiss each year by with
Pillow talk , it’s got a retro matte finish which will last , you can team this up with pillow talk pencil for the perfect match.
It’s won many awards and only deserves to be part of your big day.
Cost £24 per item
Mac lipstick patisserie it’s got a perfect sheen and not to over powering in colour it’s always a winner in my kit. Viva glam 2 is also a good go to and when you purchase a viva glam lipstick it goes to charity so it’s guilt free in my eyes.
- Treat your self to a cult classic
Cost £14.50/ £15
Dusty rose & deep berry are lovely
- 2-4-1 you say ? Yes why not get a Lip and cheek stain so you get more for your money with a multi use product, body shop do a great one here are some options depending on your skin tone and desired look.
Around the £5 mark - we all need one of those
- Want to watch those pennies
Elf in ‘bare kiss’ is perfect for that vegan & cruelty free option and it’s cheap and does the job for only £3
Nyx offer lots of options one of my favourites is Abu Dhabi that’s priced around £6-£7
Burst bees wax tinted balm is perfect for that sheer tint to the lip while also keeping your lip hydrated ready to kiss your new husband.
- Balm it up Because that’s all you need sometimes!!
So there you have it a few recommendations from me to you. So don’t forget your lipstick for topping up through out the day and I would also recommend getting a powder to touch up any shine and maybe a tissue for wiping away those tears of joy. 💋🙏💕 Links below x x
Charlotte Tilbury lipsticks
Tom ford lips
tinted lip balm
elf kiss balm
body shop lip & cheek tint